Is the person who becomes your best friend, a reflection of who you are or who you want to be? Even in cases of pure luck and proximity, does their existence shape who you become, in some way, thus enabling you to remain their friend.
I havent thought about this much- but one of my very close friends said something particularly insightful in an offhanded way. I was thinking about how profound it is, and how this quality of hers usually gets outshadowed because of her other attractive qualities.
But this is perhaps why I have remained close to her. I mean, emotional support is likely the #1 reason but emotional support requirements dont come that often, but when they do they come in a tsunami. This however is probably the peacetime housekeeping, ensuring cobwebs are swept away & the house is kept clean for when the emotional support guest checks in? Am i mixing metaphors enough
Anyhow as I grow older I am finding certain intellectual discussions tiresome- am no longer interested in abstract discussions about society and long term discussions about one particular concept ( say intersectional feminism ( i dont know what this means, just an example) over a discussion about how to keep your house clean for example- the latter is definitely less intellectual but more impactful- however little the impact circumference is. Intersectional feminism may have impact on more people but our discussion potentially has minimum impact (defined here as make people act / change something ). The discussion happens and nothing has changed in the world, we all feel very intellectual and then go to bed.
So an emotinal support or a life insight is better value to me than a discussion on microeconomics or politics or whatever.
